Why Fazilah does what she does….
When I reflect on the toughest parts of being a Child and Family Therapist, I often think back to my family’s experience with loss. The sudden passing of my father was a pivotal moment—one filled with grief, confusion, and an overwhelming sense of change. During that time, I deeply wished we had sought support. Losing a parent is a life-altering event, and looking back, I realize how invaluable it would have been to have someone there to offer guidance, compassion, and hope.
This experience became the driving force behind the creation of YYC Family Therapy. I wanted to establish a safe and supportive space where families could navigate life’s most challenging moments—whether it’s grief, divorce, bullying, academic struggles, or cultural identity shifts—with someone walking alongside them every step of the way.
The Real Work: Beyond Skills and Training
When people ask about the most challenging part of my work, I often find myself pausing to reflect. I’ve spent years investing in practical and academic training because I know how crucial strong skills and knowledge are in this field. But the truth is, being a good therapist is about so much more than credentials and techniques.
It’s about self-reflection and personal growth. It involves a continuous process of examining how my life experiences and social position influences the way I think, feel, and navigate the world. This introspective work is not a one-time task—it is an ongoing commitment to showing up authentically and ethically with each client I meet.
Holding Space with Curiosity and Respect
One of the most important aspects of my role is holding space for others while maintaining a deep awareness of myself. This means being fully present and meeting my clients where they are—honoring their unique beliefs, values, and ways of being. It is not about imposing my own perspectives but rather approaching every interaction with curiosity and respect.
Creating this kind of environment requires a delicate balance. It means checking in with myself regularly to ensure I’m not projecting my own experiences onto the families I support. It involves a practice of humility and the courage to acknowledge when I need to step back and recalibrate.
Creating a Safe Space for Families
At the core of my practice is a genuine desire to provide a space where families feel seen, heard, and supported. I strive to offer a place where they can express themselves openly, process their emotions, and explore new ways of connecting with one another. It is incredibly humbling to witness families find healing and hope during life’s most challenging times.
I believe that true growth happens when we feel safe and valued, and it is my privilege to walk alongside families on their journeys toward resilience and wellness.